Whether you want to get a divorce, break up with your girlfriend or quit your job, the fear of change is always there, stopping you from doing the things you truly want or need.
“What if we’ll go through a messy divorce and both of us will be unhappy?”
“What if I hurt my girlfriend’s feelings and I won’t be able to live with myself after the breakup?”
“What if I won’t be able to find a better job after quitting my current, crappy one?”
There are lots of ‘what ifs’ that almost never have any value in them.
You see, no matter how many hours you will spend tossing around ‘what ifs’ trying to predict the consequences of your decision, you’ll never be able to predict what’s going to happen, let alone prepare yourself for it.
The dilemma of being scared of change
More often than not, people tend to make up more problems for themselves by analyzing too much.
The deeper you analyze an important decision you’re about to make, the more fear it causes.
If you’re scared of change, you face the following dilemma:
- you’re unhappy because you don’t like your current life and you want to restart/change it;
- you’re unhappy because you can’t move forward due to the overwhelming fear of change.
Instead of going through a list of all possible ‘what ifs’ over and over again, think about how bad your life will be if you don’t change.
A bad marriage – when at least one party is unhappy – is never going to work out. And the worst part is this: the longer you wait for divorce, the worse the consequences.
A relationship that doesn’t work will never work again unless both parties put an effort into it. And the longer you wait for a breakup, the more chances to hurt your and your partner’s feelings.
A bad job will never make you feel good about yourself. Even if the pay is good, it’s never worth waking up every morning with the unbearable feeling of hopelessness and depression.
Here’s why you need to make that change
Forcing yourself into living the life you don’t enjoy or even hate is the worst thing you can do to yourself.
Each and every one of us deserves to be happy, and our decisions must never be made against our own interests.
After all, if you’re unhappy with your life, you get irritated, angry, depressed or even suicidal. All these things never end well if not eliminated.
Yes, changing your life never comes easy. It can be extremely hard or even painful to do so, but it’s so worth the risk.
Instead of falling into a deep and endless abyss of ‘what ifs’, do this: think about all the good things you’ll be able to experience or feel after you make the change.
Do these things warm you up from the inside and motivate you to change your life? That’s a tell-tale sign that you desperately need to make that change.
The only way you can overcome the fear of change is to become braver and realize the bad consequences of living the life you don’t enjoy.
Keep in mind that you only have one life and you’ll not be able to go back in time to fix your mistakes (unless, of course, humans find a way to build a time machine).
If you want something, go get it.
If you want to get a divorce or break up with your current partner but aren’t sure if you’ll be able to fall in love again, online dating is your answer.
There are millions of women and men seeking love online nowadays, which means no matter who you are, how old you are or how you look, your fear of not being able to find new love doesn’t make any sense whatsoever.