People are not good at keeping their New Year’s resolutions. The estimate is that 80% of them fail. To make sure that your resolve doesn’t dissolve into this shocking statistic you need to take action.
- Focus on what you have: Get it into your head that abundance is something into which you tune. You already have it. It’s not something you acquire. Tick the boxes. You’ll surprise yourself.
- Use your imagination: Imagination used correctly can be the greatest tool to help turn dreams into reality. Used incorrectly it can become a significant roadblock. Don’t focus on what could go wrong, imagine the good that could come from a particular move
- Live in the moment: The past is another country. The future hasn’t happened yet. Stop the car. Look behind and recognize that’s where you’ve been. Look ahead and realize that’s where you are going. Whereare you living? Here and now! Suck it up. A lot is going on. Feel, hear, see, taste, and touch. Give each of those senses 100%. They are real.
- Ignore others: Comparison is a dangerous pass time. Judging, blaming, or feeling sorry doesn’t get things done. Your grass doesn’t grow green by looking over your fence at the neighbor’s lawn. Grow your own life.
- Be honest: Acknowledge who, what and where you are. Identify what works and what doesn’t. Take credit for the good and change the bad.
- Tell yourself empowering stories: Look at your life. Identify what you’d like to change. How positive can you make the story you tell yourself?
- Focus on something greater than yourself: Taking part in things that are greater than you adds a purpose and hones endeavor. Never be afraid to stretch yourself.
- Act as if you care for yourself: Put yourself first. If you can’t care for yourself, you can’t even think about caring for others. Putting yourself first is not a selfish act! It is a necessity.
- Trust others and think the best of them: The person who cut you up in the car might have been in a hurry to reach a loved one in trouble. An emergency might have sidetracked another person, so they failed to deliver a project on time. It’ not just you who has problems that get in the way and you can never know what everyone else may be facing.
- Ask better, more positive questions: Negative questions call for negative answers so only ask them to become clear on possible worst-case scenarios. If you find yourself asking “What could go wrong?” adjust your focus and change it to “What could go right?”
- Focus on the important stuff: Other people’s judgments and criticisms are not as important as how you feel about what you are achieving. Care about what matters to you.
- Believe in yourself: Your relationship with yourself needs to be nurtured and fueled by you believing in yourself. Your feelings, whatever they are, are what is important.Embrace them wholeheartedly.
- Celebrate life’s obstacles: When we hit a problem, it’s part of the solution. It just has to be overcome. It’s like most journeys. Something is likely to happen to hamper progress, but it doesn’t mean that’s the end of the road. It’s just part of the achievement. Feel the fear and do it anyway.
- Keep problems in perspective: Dealing with problems and challenges is a way of propelling us forward. By shedding light on what doesn’t work, we can better explore, investigate and find a better solution.
- Embrace your vulnerability: Vulnerability may be scary, but it is also part of the route to strength. Don’t hide it, tackle it so that disappointment, pain, and shame can lead to opening the path to growth, love, and connection.
To arrive at the place where we want to be, we have to walk in that direction. It’s not a sprint. It’s a lifelong marathon.
Take one thing at a time and move on when you feel comfortable with one area, move into another. Consistency trumps intensity.